I know I’m not the most available person. Between life’s responsibilities and being a mom, I don’t have a lot of time. But, what I have I will give freely.
I try to check in. It’s a small gesture, but it’s been impactful when received. I’ll send you a message or give you call to let you know I’m thinking of you. I’ll send something I thought could be motivational. I’ll give you the funny thing I came across on social media. I want you to know I’m always here. I will find time for you. I will support you. I will love you.
My circle is so incredibly small and so incredibly important to me. I want to be a valuable friend to my valuable friends.
I am a valuable girlfriend.
I love the idea of love. I love having someone’s back, being in their corner, loving and supporting their day to day, their hustle, and their dreams.
I want to be woven into your family dynamic. I want to weave you into mine.
I want the plus one, the sacrifice, the partner, the best friend, the above all else. I want that.
I can be submissive, and I can be strong. You can lean on me. You can depend on me. You can trust me to be reliable.
I’m not looking to come up off your efforts. We can move forward working side by side.
I don’t need to be saved. I’m no damsel. I’m not in distress.
I am valuable. I am worthwhile. And, I realize that, finally.
I’m editing the relationships in my life. I’m changing what I allow. I’m realizing my value, and I’m expecting the man I end up with to realize it too.
In case there is any confusion…
I’m not interested in dismissive behavior. No manipulative antics. No liars. You need to have already found yourself. Be confident, a decision maker, and a leader. I can’t be involved with someone that doesn’t understand value and isn’t showing any initiative.
Put your guard down, pray about it, and then we just try.
Side note: I’m writing this for all the women who’ve been experiencing less than their value. For anyone who forgot, even for a moment, how amazing they are.
We are beautiful, talented, nurturing, strong women, who deserve to be appreciated and valued. Your value is not based on you hair texture, skin tone, height, waist size, or whatever you beat yourself up about. You’re incredible. I promise. The man who doesn’t see your worth, isn’t your man.
It’s really that simple.