36 questions to find love…

I was surfing FB, and came across this Cosmopolitan article.

These 36 questions will make you fall in love. “Twenty years ago, psychologist Arthur Aron compiled 36 questions that he thought would make two strangers fall in love with each other. And he succeeded.”

Hmmm…it’s worth entertaining.

So for my Prince Charming, I’m gonna answer them…most of them, in case he’s following my blog.

Part I
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Ms. Oprah Winfrey, but I’d rather be her guest, and at her houses…all of them, for overnights.

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

I’d love to have fame in a small dose. I’d like people to value my work and my views, but I want to maintain my privacy. Is that even possible?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

90% of the time! I like to be clear and understood. Takes preparation.

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

Something peaceful with people I love. Maybe the beach all day, grilled seafood dinner, and s’mores over a fire pit. And, fireworks!

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

I sing ALL the time, to myself. I can’t remember the last time I sang to someone, probably with my son.

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

I’ve seen people start to slip mentally as they age. It’s hard to have someone you looked up to and leaned on start to regress like that. I’d want to maintain my mind. There’s bound to be something on the market to maintain my body.

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

No. And, it’s my greatest fear. I want to have time to watch my son grow and establish his own family. I want plenty of time to love.

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

My son and our health.

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

I wish I’d witnessed more loving relationships. As an adult, I struggle with love because I’m lacking some of the core experiences.

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Do super powers count?

Part 2
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

Hmmm…there’s so much I’d want to know, but there’s so much I’d just want to experience.

I would want to know about my death.

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

I want to travel, internationally. Time and opportunity are always my issues, along with daily responsibilities. It’s hard to make time. And, I need a passport.

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

My son.

16. What do you value most in a friendship?


17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

My best friend was killed in a car accident when I was 15. I can still replay that whole day.

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

I’d work less. I’d give the people in my life more attention, and I’d travel.

20. What does friendship mean to you?

Friendships are incredibly important. Those are people you choose to share your life and experiences with. They are invited into your life again and again. That’s a big deal. That’s a big honor, when it’s genuine.

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Love is an action word, and I’m only affectionate with people I truly love or care for.

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

Not so much.

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Really… It’s a work in progress.

Part 3
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “


27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

Communication is the most important thing, in the world, to me.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

I don’t cry often. Expressing your feelings with extreme emotion rather than calmly and including logic wasn’t encouraged when I was growing up. It was considered dramatic. If I need to cry, I’ll typically do it alone. And, it’s been awhile.

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

Crimes against children, the elderly, or animals.

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

I love my son in a way that is too big for me to totally comprehend or communicate. There are so many things I’d want to teach him and say. It’s so much. How to be a gentleman. How to do his own laundry. How to drive. Managing his money and credit. How to be a good man, husband, and father. How to love and be loved without getting lost in it. How to get lost in love. Everything. Today wouldn’t be enough time.

Tell my guy, that this is love. And, I’m happy I found it with him. I haven’t told him that because I don’t know how.

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

I couldn’t decide. I’d have what I needed in my loved ones.

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing?

I can’t.

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.