11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. – In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.
Don’t live with regrets.
Recently I took on an opportunity that didn’t pan out. It was a hard year, and I never want to go back to that situation again. It changed my life in a chaotic way. It tested my character, pushed relationships to the limit, and shook my confidence. It taught me lessons I couldn’t have learned otherwise. And, I appreciate that.
In the thick of things, I questioned my decision to take on the opportunity. I was furious feeling like I’d been manipulated and lied to. But, my mom made an amazing point. I would have always questioned missing the opportunity had I not taken it.
Everything doesn’t always work out. But, you have to try. You have to go for the lesson and opportunity, even if you don’t get the successes you want.
12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step. – You are ready! Think about it. You have everything you need right now to take the next small, realistic step forward. So embrace the opportunities that come your way, and accept the challenges – they’re gifts that will help you to grow.
Everything changed following that year. I came back to my comfort zone, but life hadn’t stopped for me. Altered relationships, unemployment, and uncertainty are all I have right now. But, that’s okay. (Seriously, the control freak in me has been tied up.) I have nothing but opportunity before me. This is my chance to do everything that my comfort zone wouldn’t have allowed. It’s gonna be better than before.
You don’t have to have major life altering events to take on the next opportunity. Just start moving in that direction. Take small, consistent, steps. Have faith and keep going.
13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons. – Enter new relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be. Choose friends you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect – people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment. And pay attention to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important than their words or how others represent them.
I haven’t always invested in the right relationships. I don’t always put my efforts in the right people. But going forward I’m going to be much more conscientious of my investment. I want relationships that are positive and beneficial.
Be careful of who you invest in. Don’t judge a book by its cover or social status.
14. Start giving new people you meet a chance. – It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
My circle is small. And, I’ve always relied on, leaned on, and celebrated with the same few people. And, that’s okay. But, we have changed, our priorities and values have shifted, and we have had to make room to welcome new relationships, in our own and in each other’s, lives. It’s been uncomfortable at times, but always rewarding.
15. Start competing against an earlier version of yourself. – Be inspired by others, appreciate others, learn from others, but know that competing against them is a waste of time. You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself. You are competing to be the best you can be. Aim to break your own personal records.
I’d never considered myself competitive, until someone pointed out just how competitive I am. And, I was shocked. Why was I so caught up with other people? When my primary competitor should have been me.
Other people don’t have my goals, needs, or desires. Their journey is for them. I need to focus on my journey and being better at it everyday.
Take chances, make genuine investments, stay focused, and strive to be better everyday.
Do the work.