30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #11-#15

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance.In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.
Don’t live with regrets. 

Recently I took on an opportunity that didn’t pan out. It was a hard year, and I never want to go back to that situation again. It changed my life in a chaotic way. It tested my character, pushed relationships to the limit, and shook my confidence. It taught me lessons I couldn’t have learned otherwise. And, I appreciate that. 

In the thick of things, I questioned my decision to take on the opportunity. I was furious feeling like I’d been manipulated and lied to. But, my mom made an amazing point. I would have always questioned missing the opportunity had I not taken it. 

Everything doesn’t always work out. But, you have to try. You have to go for the lesson and opportunity, even if you don’t get the successes you want. 

12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step.You are ready! Think about it. You have everything you need right now to take the next small, realistic step forward. So embrace the opportunities that come your way, and accept the challenges – they’re gifts that will help you to grow.

Everything changed following that year. I came back to my comfort zone, but life hadn’t stopped for me. Altered relationships, unemployment, and uncertainty are all I have right now. But, that’s okay. (Seriously, the control freak in me has been tied up.) I have nothing but opportunity before me. This is my chance to do everything that my comfort zone wouldn’t have allowed. It’s gonna be better than before. 

You don’t have to have major life altering events to take on the next opportunity. Just start moving in that direction. Take small, consistent, steps. Have faith and keep going. 

13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons.Enter new relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be. Choose friends you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect – people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment. And pay attention to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important than their words or how others represent them.
I haven’t always invested in the right relationships. I don’t always put my efforts in the right people. But going forward I’m going to be much more conscientious of my investment. I want relationships that are positive and beneficial. 

Be careful of who you invest in. Don’t judge a book by its cover or social status. 

14. Start giving new people you meet a chance.It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.

My circle is small. And, I’ve always relied on, leaned on, and celebrated with the same few people. And, that’s okay. But, we have changed, our priorities and values have shifted, and we have had to make room to welcome new relationships, in our own and in each other’s, lives. It’s been uncomfortable at times, but always rewarding. 

15. Start competing against an earlier version of yourself.Be inspired by others, appreciate others, learn from others, but know that competing against them is a waste of time. You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself. You are competing to be the best you can be. Aim to break your own personal records.

I’d never considered myself competitive, until someone pointed out just how competitive I am. And, I was shocked. Why was I so caught up with other people? When my primary competitor should have been me. 

Other people don’t have my goals, needs, or desires. Their journey is for them. I need to focus on my journey and being better at it everyday. 

The challenge:

Take chances, make genuine investments, stay focused, and strive to be better everyday. 

Do the work. 

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #10

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

10. Start creating your own happiness. – If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out. Smile because you can. Choose happiness. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow. Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it. If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it. But if you constantly look for something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too.

This is part of my motivation into this series of blogs. This speaks to me with clarity and urgency. 

Don’t spend another moment unhappy. Do everything in your power to create happiness in your life. You are totally responsible for your feelings and emotions. Proactively work towards happiness. 

The challenge:

Find the moments that make you happy  throughout the day. 

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #8/#9

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

8. Start being more polite to yourself. – If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will.

The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. Wow! This is so incredibly true, and so incredibly important. Before you expect love from the outside, you must have introduced yourself to love. 

The challenge:

Before you start your day, every day, stand in the mirror and give yourself 5 heartfelt compliments. 

9. Start enjoying the things you already have. –
The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc. Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind. You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now. So take a quiet moment every morning when you first awake to appreciate where you are and what you already have.

This is really similar to 6. Start noticing and living in the present. Focus on the present; including what you presently have. 

Desire is beautiful. It’s important. It’s necessary, but don’t let your focus on the next greatest thing make you miss the blessings you currently have. 

The challenge:

Life is short. Focus on the things that matter most. 

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #7


30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you.Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress. If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning. Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again. Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving. Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at the end of a long road of failures. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.

Mistakes are a part of life. They teach us lessons, help us grow, and shape our character. They help to establish resiliency and compassion. They are necessary. 

Sometimes you may be winning and not even realize it. 

And, every failed relationship is an opportunity to prepare you for the right relationship.

The challenge:

Look for the lessons in your life. They are often masked by experiences you thought were failures. 

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #6


30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

6. Start noticing and living in the present. Right now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future. Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past. Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s happening. Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.

There are so many uncertainties in my life right now, and I often get incredibly anxious just thinking about it. I can stress myself to tears or just sit back and wait to see what unfolds. Either way, I’m miserable. 

Instead, I’m choosing to enjoy the moment, pray and lean on my faith, and find the beauty in the moment. Because there are incredible things happening right now, and I’m missing them being trapped between anxious and hopeful. 

Get involved in your life TODAY. 

The past happened. The future isn’t guaranteed. All we have is this moment. 

The challenge:

Enjoy this moment. Laugh when something is funny. Cry if you need to. Make decisions that make you happy. Ignore negativity. Try something new. Be kind. Be genuine. Be resilient. Be honest. 

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #5



30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. – Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Be yourself. Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. 

Be yourself! This is so true, and it resonants with me in a major way. I have been a performer for years, for way too long. I am a chameleon, and I have twisted myself backwards to please other people. It’s exhausting, and ultimately not truly appreciated. And, I don’t feel good about the way I conducted myself. 

I am enough as I am. Being true to who I am is what matters. 

The challenge:

Follow your heart, be passionate about what you’re involved in, and be your true genuine self!

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #3/#4


30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

3. Start being honest with yourself about everything. Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. Be honest with every aspect of your life, always. Because you are the one person you can forever count on. Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are. Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there. Read The Road Less Traveled.

Most of us are our worst critics. We probably overinflate our problems and issues, but are we totally honest with ourselves? There’s a difference. 

Lately, I’ve been facing my relationship issues. I’m trying to truly let go of what’s comfortable and pointless and get back out there. It’s easy to romanticize what’s going on and excuse what’s not when you want something to work as much as I have. But, that’s an endless cycle. And, it’s me not being honest with myself. 

That’s just one example. I’m routinely choosing the easiest route, and ignoring that it’s stunting my growth and maturity. 

No more. 

The challenge:

Be honest with yourself. Keep yourself on a path of excellence. Compliment yourself as you grow and develop, and politely reign yourself in when needed.

Have those hard conversations with yourself. But do so with positivity and respect.

4. Start making your own happiness a priority.
Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.

Take care of yourself. Make yourself a priority. Be at your best. 

It’s easy to lose yourself in the daily shuffle of responsibilities. Making sure your family, friends, social, and professional obligations are handled can take more time that you ever thought available. 

So, what about you? Are you making sure that you are taken care of? You can’t really take care of others, if you aren’t taking care of yourself. 

You have to take time for yourself. 

The challenge:

Pencil yourself in. Make plans to do things for you, separate from all the other obligations you have in life. Try to do something weekly. It can be elaborate or simple. 

Make sure you make yourself a priority.