30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #5

  

   

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. – Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Be yourself. Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. 

Be yourself! This is so true, and it resonants with me in a major way. I have been a performer for years, for way too long. I am a chameleon, and I have twisted myself backwards to please other people. It’s exhausting, and ultimately not truly appreciated. And, I don’t feel good about the way I conducted myself. 

I am enough as I am. Being true to who I am is what matters. 

The challenge:

Follow your heart, be passionate about what you’re involved in, and be your true genuine self!

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #3/#4

  

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

3. Start being honest with yourself about everything. Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. Be honest with every aspect of your life, always. Because you are the one person you can forever count on. Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are. Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there. Read The Road Less Traveled.

Most of us are our worst critics. We probably overinflate our problems and issues, but are we totally honest with ourselves? There’s a difference. 

Lately, I’ve been facing my relationship issues. I’m trying to truly let go of what’s comfortable and pointless and get back out there. It’s easy to romanticize what’s going on and excuse what’s not when you want something to work as much as I have. But, that’s an endless cycle. And, it’s me not being honest with myself. 

That’s just one example. I’m routinely choosing the easiest route, and ignoring that it’s stunting my growth and maturity. 

No more. 

The challenge:

Be honest with yourself. Keep yourself on a path of excellence. Compliment yourself as you grow and develop, and politely reign yourself in when needed.

Have those hard conversations with yourself. But do so with positivity and respect.


4. Start making your own happiness a priority.
Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.

Take care of yourself. Make yourself a priority. Be at your best. 

It’s easy to lose yourself in the daily shuffle of responsibilities. Making sure your family, friends, social, and professional obligations are handled can take more time that you ever thought available. 

So, what about you? Are you making sure that you are taken care of? You can’t really take care of others, if you aren’t taking care of yourself. 

You have to take time for yourself. 

The challenge:

Pencil yourself in. Make plans to do things for you, separate from all the other obligations you have in life. Try to do something weekly. It can be elaborate or simple. 

Make sure you make yourself a priority. 

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30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

2. Start facing your problems head on. It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.I don’t want to because it’s hard. 

Enough is enough. 

Problems never fix themselves. I know this because I have left things for years, and they never went away. Things don’t just work themselves out. Everything requires acknowledgement, intention, and hard work. 

Nothing is impossible. 

You CAN do it. 

The challenge:

Just start. It always seems more difficult looking at the entire issue. Tackle it piece by piece until it is done. 

Deep breath, and GO

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself #1

  
30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

1. Start spending time with the right people.These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.

Who are the right people? Titles don’t matter. Longevity doesn’t matter. Qualities matter. You can’t embrace everyone. It doesn’t matter if it’s a family member or BFF since Pre-K. If you aren’t growing, protected, and loved within that relationship, give it some space. You don’t have to drop them, please don’t drop them. They have a place in you life, it just may no longer be a starring role. Just manage the attention you give that relationship differently. 

And, make new connections. Reach out to people doing incredible things. Build relationships, or build on relationships, that are taking you in the direction you desire. 

The people that I engage, should be engaging in my life also. 

The challenge: 

This week, start assessing your relationships. Are you getting what you need from them? Do they require more work from you, or do you need to give them some space?

This week, work to make a new connection that pushes you in the direction you want to go. Send a friend request, or follow, on social media, reach out to an existing friend or associate, or research the things you want to add to your life and the people that can help you get there. 

Easy enough? Absolutely. 

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

 Last year, I stumbled upon this post from http://www.lifebuzz.com. It definitely resonated with me, and I even began practicing and preaching a few of the 30. But this time, a year later, I’m going to take a journey through all 30. 

30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself

I’ll soon be making adjustments and changes in my life, that will require me being a stronger person than ever before. I want to feel powerful and ready. 

6 weeks. 5 opportunities, focuses, objectives every week, and I’m asking for MASS participation. I want this for all of us!

XOXO

This is also the kick start of That Relationship Thing on Facebook. Follow immediately! 

No back up plan

I go into relationships, any relationship, totally genuine. There’s no preconceived notion or ulterior motive. I’m here. I’m honest. I’m ready. 

That’s who I am. 

There are no plan B’s in relationships. I’m not preparing for failure. I’m not looking for an out. I’m in this. I’m ready. 

It’s a scary thought. Thinking that the person you’re falling for isn’t falling too, because they are being held up by their past relationships or potential relationships. 

But, that’s real. 

How long does it take for you to let the other guys, both past and potential, know that you’re off the table? Shouldn’t take that long. 

Now, I’m talking in commitment. When you’re dating, testing the waters, and having experiences. Play the field. Go into extra innings, meet as many fish in that sea as you can withstand. But, when you have the committal talk. It’s time to really commit. Erase your back up plan and be all in. 

If it doesn’t work, oh well. Only 0.001% of the population married their first date.