They should. I’ve always said that your actions should define your words. They should go hand in hand. It takes both to be true.
Now, I’m second guessing myself. Struggling with the politics of life. My professional life and personal life have been contradicting me. The control freak in me is freaking out.
Is it fair to read between the lines? Is it necessary? If you don’t say what you need to say but do what you should, should you get a pass? Professional and personal.
Because my last post, “Do you just love the way I love you?,” caught some heat. I was told that men, in personal situations, should be judged far heavier on their actions than words. Because, “men don’t communicate the same way women do.”
Ummm…okay. Whatever, sir.
I think it takes both. You should communicate in a way that the two are in sync. That’s it, personally and professionally.
And with that, I ride the professional wave (with no other choice) and watch the personal wave pass me by.
Crickets… Still waiting…
A few days ago, he said all the right things. He wants to try. He mentioned how much I care about him. He trusts me, he cares about me, and he thinks we could make this work. He could make a home with me. He could make a life with me.
He never said he loved me. He said some amazing things, but it didn’t sit well with me. And I’m stuck wondering if he’s building a perfect relationship for him, and I’m just a placeholder in it.
What if he just loves the way I love him? I’ve been down since the beginning. Been supportive and clocked in since I met him. I have dated other men in our down time, but I’ve always stayed available to him. I’ve always been here. I’ve been consistent.
Ouch. Oops. Done.
I believe that men reach the right time to settle down, and do so with the best woman in that moment. Women fall in love and move mountains to make it work, no matter the timing. I believe that. Is this his right time? Is he my right guy? What are we doing?
It feels right. But, it feels difficult. It hasn’t worked beforehand, but it hasn’t completely crashed and burned either.
No one is waiting patiently for you to figure it out and get yourself together. No one is waiting for you to choose them. Act now, or regret it later. It’s just that simple.
Because there is ALWAYS someone standing in the wings. There is always someone prepared to step in if you step back.
While you’re waiting 3 days, making sure this is right, or whatever you’re doing, someone is acting in the moment. They’re saying what they need to say. They are taking the potential love of your life because they are acting, not waiting.
Say I love you today, if that’s what you feel. Say something. You know what needs to be said.
Because there’s someone else out there. Probably more than one someone, and they will move forward the second they sense you’re standing still.
Believe me. I’ve been on both ends of this…more than I’d like to admit.
If you let me go, I’m gone. Can you handle that?
I think we forget that done means done forever. What you do in emotion could stick for life. Can you handle that?
I give everything I’ve got to my relationships. I go in 100%, and work my derrière off for happiness. I am a great woman, amazing girlfriend, submissive when necessary, and independent to my core. I don’t need a man. I desire one. Makes everything different.
I could get some letters of reference if you don’t believe me.
If you burn this beautiful bridge with me, if you walk away, if you’re done make sure that’s what you want. Because when I’m done…I’m done. And, I’m marketable enough to find someone else. And, you will realize that you let an amazing chick go.
Again, I could get some letters of reference if you don’t believe me.