Is it ever okay to go back? I’ve been dealing with this question over and over again. Here’s today’s answer…
Yes. If you feel it in your gut. If you can’t turn away. If you need just one more time for clarity or closure, go back. Try again. Give it all you got. Don’t rest. Don’t give up. Stay the course. This could be THE time that changes everything.
No. If it is was bad, let go. If you were hurt so deeply you barely made it through, never look back.
How do you know?
When you think about that person what comes to mind? Do you immediately focus on the good times? Are you overcome with all the amazing things that happened in your relationship? Do you smile? Do you laugh? Do you miss then? Or, do you remember the most awful moments? Do you cringe? Are you devastated? Are you still hurting?
You know where I’m going with this, right?
Going back is an option if your thoughts are mostly positive. Maybe it was a misunderstanding, or necessary growth, that kept you apart. Maybe someone is holding on to an apology owed. Whatever it is doesn’t really matter. If you are missing the good times, you may need to try again. But if your mind immediately goes to hard times and chaos, you need to let this go. You need to be thankful that you made it out with your emotions in tact.
Disclaimer: I may be wrong. If you know me you know that I have a pattern of reliving relationships over and over again. But, this is usually how I determine if it’s worth the time and energy to try again. Because some people are quick to say it ended for a reason, and you should respect that reason. I’m on the fence about that. I’ve ended some relationships prematurely. Going back, even though it ended again, gave us closure. We needed a mature ending to salvage that friendship.
Trust yourself. Good luck, and God bless.