I’m lying in bed, waiting for my alarm clock at this point. INSOMNIA: 2nd hour.
This is the best time for me to think. I’m most honest when the rest of the world is quiet.
Something happened, the what isn’t important. The reaction is.
An apology is bigger than an explanation sometimes. Sir, when life happens outside of your control, but it affects her, this is what you should do. You offer the explanation you have and an apology. “A lot happened today, but I can’t really get into the details. I’m sorry that my stuff affected you.” You let her ask questions. You answer the ones you can, and you’re honest. And, you give her an opportunity to digest the situation. At some point, you sincerely ask her if she’s okay. Because even if you had the situation, it oozed into her life, and she should be asked that question.
Don’t avoid her.
Things we ignore, usually get worse with time. (Relationship things, at least.) Face everything quickly. She will know she is important. She will know she is valued. She will know that in a dark time and place you considered her and her feelings. And, that will give your relationship depth.
Disclaimer: Sir, it’s your story. You don’t have to share anything you don’t want to share. But you should consider her if the events of your life affect her.